Birth Announcements: Premature, Stolen or Just Plain Complicated…

Do you remember announcing your baby’s birth to family and friends or on social media?

Baby Washing Line

After 38 weeks of carrying Lily, 4 days in Hospital giving birth to her and, I don’t know, BEING HER ACTUAL MOTHER – I thought we might of had the pleasure of sharing the wonderful news ourselves.

But, whilst we were still in a daze and that magical bubble of the whole ‘we’ve actually done it, she’s actually here’ thing we all go through, somebody else had not only announced Lily’s birth on Facebook but snapped and shared the first photo of her that anybody would ever see!

The picture wasn’t just of Lily either, it was of both of them.

I really felt that the first photo should of been of us as our new little family or just Lily by herself but what can you do?

It doesn’t really matter. All we really cared about was that our baby was happy, healthy and loved to the ends of the earth and back but I’ll admit that when I fantasised about and imagined Lily’s birth for all of those months and indeed, those long days in Hospital whilst I waited for her to arrive, it was something that I was really looking forward to.

Pink Baby Girl Washing Line

It was the biggest and most important moment of my life and I wanted to shout it from the rooftops. I was so proud of her, so proud of myself and so proud of us as a couple to have made something so completely perfect and precious.

I know that it wasn’t meant to cause any upset at all and the person who ‘stole our thunder’ didn’t really think anything of it. Like the rest of us, they were just excited and proud and who could blame them!

Nevertheless, I was disappointed. I do think that it’s a right reserved for the parents only, don’t you?

Anyway, I asked some of my fellow bloggers if they’d ever been through anything similar and it seems that it’s actually a very common complaint.

It happens more often than you’d think and Facebook clearly has a LOT to answer for…

“I was in a similar situation with my second daughter. Everything happened quickly so we texted family first but didn’t have my sister-in-law’s number. As we were trying to get the number from my in-laws, my sister announced that I’d given birth on Facebook. My sister-in-law saw this before our text and was not happy at all.”

Stacey from Mummy M’s Memories

Baby Blue

“When I had my first baby, somebody came to visit with family and put pictures up on Facebook. I wasn’t in any of the photos and infact there was no mention of me at all! I hadn’t even had a chance to tell everyone myself yet – including some other family members. I was heartbroken and felt like I was just an incubator to make the inlaws more family members. The second time round we didn’t have any visitors!”

Laura at Wafflemama.

Baby Yellow

“I came out of hospital to find my brother and dad being congratulated on being an uncle and grandad. Shouldn’t it of been us instead?”

Alex at Lamb & Bear

Baby Pink

“There was huge family rivalry about who got to hold the baby first and my eldest daughter came in to Hospital and posted a picture on Facebook before my mother-in-law had been to visit. It caused a major family fallout and 5 years on, my mother-in-law has only just started talking to my eldest.”

Kara from Chelsea Mamma

Baby Green

“My brother announced the birth of my son on Facebook before we’d sent a text out to friends. I was really annoyed. I couldn’t believe it. He tagged me in it and that meant that most of our messages of congratulations were on his post rather than the birth announcement I posted a few hours later. He also put the wrong time of birth and that annoyed me the most for some reason!”

Laura at Mummy Lala

Baby Blue

“My husband announced the birth on Facebook before I’d gotten out of theatre (c-section) and my mam was so annoyed when she found out as we hadn’t phoned her first!”

Rebecca at Becster

Baby Yellow

“My dad announced my third child on Facebook before I was ready or had even told my mother-in-law or spoken to anyone on the phone. It was a rapid birth so no-one knew I was in labour or anything! I then felt I had to announce in on Facebook which led to my brother-in-law phoning my mother-in-law obviously presuming that she knew. Luckily she’s easy-going and didn’t mind. He meant no harm.”

Jenny from Midwife and Life

Baby Pink

“One of my friends wrote a not-so-cryptic message on Facebook so people who knew us both were able to work out that we’d had Oliver. It annoyed me slightly as I’d rather they’d of found out from me. The friend is a very close friend who had been super helpful to me whilst I was pregnant so I felt I should tell her before my other friends. Next time, we’ll send a group text and then a photo on Facebook when we’re ready.”

Natalie from The Diary of an Unexpected Mother

Baby Green

“My mother told my whole family about 3 of my pregnancies and births before anyone else did. I was really annoyed about this because she always stole my thunder. So, fourth time round I told everyone EXCEPT her until my wedding day when I was 11 weeks pregnant.”

Nikki from Keeping Strong and Moving Forward

Baby Blue

“My aunt texted a picture of my first born to a colleague of mine who then emailed it to the whole company. I was heartbroken! All this before I’d even left Hospital.”

Karen at Adventures of a Monkeyfooted Mummy

Baby Yellow

“I had Caleb 7 weeks early as I had pre-eclampsia. Nobody knew I was in Hospital except our parents and close family. He was born at close to 11pm and a few hours later (after only telling family that he’d been born) my mother-in-law’s best friend wrote ‘Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy’ on my Facebook wall. I was absolutely fuming but luckily nobody picked up on it or they mustn’t of thought it was true as he was so early! When I hit 37 weeks with my daughter I turned off all posts to my wall and tags on Facebook. My sister-in-law also had her birth announcement ruined by her boyfriend’s cousin. She even announced the baby’s name!”

Rebecca from Mum of a Premature Baby

Baby Pink

“We had to ban everyone from the Hospital just because of my partner’s mother. She was acting like she was the only one who had rights to the baby and it was getting kinda creepy…”

Elanor at Tiggy Poes and Flutterbys

Baby Green

“My mother-in-law announced Max’s birth and my pregnancy online before I had even told close friends and family!”

Laura at Max and Mummy

Baby Blue

“One of my friends congratulated me on Facebook when I hadn’t even posted details myself. Worse than that though, when I was in Hospital in October having baby #2, they had to call security to escort out a granny who had turned up after finding out about her new grandson on Facebook! She wasn’t best pleased!”

Pamela at Life With Munchers

Baby Yellow

“My sister put it on Facebook without realising we had hardly told anyone. I was devastated. She was gutted and took it down immediately, bless her! She was just so excited to have another niece!”

Colette from We’re Going On An Adventure

Baby Pink

“My brother-in-law’s girlfriend text her mate before we’d finished informing family. The mate was with my cousin at the time (also friends) and my cousin freaked out a little as she’d literally just heard the news that my baby had been induced early as an emergency!”

Kate at The Less Refined-Mind 

Baby Green

“My partner’s best friend stuck it on Facebook and tagged us both. I’d literally just given birth 5 minutes before and was in shock so couldn’t do a thing for an hour or two. We had texts and calling from people asking why’d we’d not told them about the birth. Um..he was on the phone to my other half whilst I was pushing so knew our little one was coming!”

Sam at A Testing Time

Baby Blue

“My bro put it on Facebook before we announced to anyone that L had been born. To make up for his excitable oversight, we had to quickly text people and post our own Facebook message. Silly git!”

Dave at The DADventurer

Baby Yellow

“My sister-in-law put it on Facebook as soon as she’d heard and we’d not even left the Hospital at this point. I was gutted to say the least!”

Louise from With Love From Lou

So, what about you? Did you get to announce your baby’s birth the way you’d wanted to?

Lucy

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11 Comments

  1. February 3, 2016 / 10:10 PM

    I don’t blame you at all for feeling annoyed about someone else “stealing your thunder”…. of course you want to tell everyone… but in your own time. Last thing you want after your arrival is your phone going mental with Facebook notifications!

    The ability to post so easily to Facebook makes it way too easy for things like this to happen! As you mentioned, in my case it was my husband who did it to me! Not that I minded as such but my Mam was annoyed that we hadn’t phoned her and that she was told by my friend who texted her (after seeing it on Facebook!).

  2. February 3, 2016 / 10:16 PM

    Great post and thanks for including me. I would be furious if someone shared the first photo, and they would know about it! It’s taken me a long time to allow anyone else share photos of lamb on Facebook. Even after I started blogging. In my opinion I want total control of what photos are out online of my child. Ask permission first, it’s not hard! I can see myself being super strict with baby number 2! Xx

  3. February 3, 2016 / 10:21 PM

    Great post! You’ve put this together very well and it was such a lovely thought to include us all too 🙂 xx

  4. February 3, 2016 / 10:40 PM

    We did ours just fine, but a friend’s baby was announced (most annoyingly, in text-spk English) by a mutual friend. I was fuming for them but I don’t think they realised in all the drama!

  5. February 4, 2016 / 5:06 PM

    My MIL posted on Facebook before h or I could when our daughter was born. It really upset me as it was our news to share. H actually spoke to her to tell her not to put anything on fb until we had the second time round…though even then because she put an earlier date & time on her photos when uploading them to fb they show up before our announcement when I look back. Though that is just me being really petty!

  6. February 5, 2016 / 4:56 PM

    Aww hunny, it’s just so easily done these days. Irritating as heck, I can’t believe some of these stories. No-one told anyone about my two, I don’t think. I think my husband did it first. With Judah I was in a complete daze. With Judah my joy was stolen a bit because he was so poorly and they decided I was too unwell to see him so they had whisked him off to NeoNatal and when I’d just been stitched up my Mum was off to see if she could hold him before I’d barely had chance to come round. My in laws were adamant they wouldn’t go and see him until I had seen him but my Mum just waltzed off anyway haha. My husband was like, do you want me to stop her, my Mum had been with me for 5 days of labour so I just said, no, let her. I think his side of the family decided she was a bit insensitive then, but I was so out of it, I just let it go. Even now I don’t think much of it, but it was definitely less than ideal xxx they brought me photos so I could express and picture his face though xxx
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  7. February 6, 2016 / 8:11 AM

    Thanks so much for linking up! I love this post and with everything crappy aboit parenting there is always others that have been through it so it’s good routine know we are all surrounded by erm, idiots! If you decide to do a follow on about pregnancy announcements too, both times I had someone tell people before me! I wonder if that’s as common? Have a lovely weekend x
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  8. March 13, 2016 / 6:24 PM

    I’m quite an easy going person but I would have been upset if someone had announced my babies births first. Luckily both times I just had my husband with me and we rang our parents first who rang our siblings, then we announced via Facebook and text messages. No-one else knew that I was in labour the first time, and second time only my parents and only because they were looking after the oldest. Actually I think with my son back in 2009 we just did text messages as not everyone was on Facebook then like they are now, and it was before I was a blogger so I wasn’t all over social media like I am these days!
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    • March 19, 2016 / 10:18 PM

      Ah that’s good, I did find it quite upsetting at the time but what can you do? I think because I was being induced everybody knew when it was happening so we had people chasing for updates etc. x

  9. May 10, 2016 / 6:47 PM

    Wow, I’m so shocked that this happens so often, family and friends should have more common sense! With my firstborn, we phoned my mum shortly after I’d given birth, me on the bed where I’d given birth with blood all around me, still in shock, and my mum says ‘Can I put it on Facebook?’ I said ‘NO! It’s our news and it’s just happened, I’m still on the bed!’ So we did announce it ourselves the next day. I was so mad at her, but now after reading these stories, at least she asked! xx
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    • May 15, 2016 / 11:12 PM

      Yes definitely! At least you had the chance to say ‘no’ I guess 🙂 X

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