Mum Boss – Mothering, Blogging + The Joys of Self-Employment

I am a mum boss, did you know?

And by that, I don’t mean that I’m a mum who is bossy (although that can sometimes be true, but I have to be bossy because I’m sorry darling but apple pies and electricity sockets just aren’t a good combination!) but I am a mum who is juggling the equivalent of a full crockery set and aside from the tired eyes, boyfriend-specific short temper and questionable diet of coco pops and biscuits, I’ve got it down, I am slaying this nineteen-fifties wifey crapola (sort of) and bringing the whole darn thing in to the twenty-first century running my own little business (yes, I’m actually a company, go check…did you see? impressed much?)

I am never one to blow my own trumpet (ooh, feeling like one of the elves from ben and holly right now) but, like you, I am proud of what I’m doing in my life (or you bloody well should be, sort yourself out, take a look in the mirror, you got this!)

Mum Boss - Lily & Mummy

Despite that sneaky voice mouthing off in the back of my mind that I couldn’t possibly have ‘the best possible’ bond with Lily because I stopped breastfeeding too early, I can accept what I always knew. You, my naughty little insecurities, talk bullshizz because that bond is SO strong, unbelievably unbreakable and the fact that I even worried about that just shows how much I care and love my little picklepie. Yes, my baby had formula and yes, I do constantly beat myself up about the whole thing and wonder what our bond would be like if I’d of managed to keep going but the truth is that it’d be exactly the same as it is now. I have nothing to mourn, neither of us have lost out on anything and it’s just sanctimonious media hype that ever made me think that the way I fed my baby could so deeply impact our relationship. If you could see us together, I’m sure you would slap my stupid little face for putting myself through the unnecessary worry and pain because we are like two peas in a pod and I’m so glad that I can finally put these creeping insecurities to bed once and for all.

And my word, our gorgeous girl is so clever (I often feel the need to dumb this down but hey, it’s my blog and I’m having a ‘yay me’ moment and -1- I’m so bloody proud and -2- she deserves to be celebrated, I’m her mum and if I want to say she’s out-of-this-world awesome, then I will because that’s my right and it’s what she should – and will – hear from my mouth for the rest of her life).

I have lost count of the amount of people who question her age, marvel at the words and sentences that she comes out with and tell me just how beautiful she is.

Lily - The Most Beautiful Girl In The World

Next thing – I’ve been making videos. You might have only caught one or two so far but there’s more ready to be published (both on my own YouTube channel and in other places, you’ll see!) and aside from the excitement of finally having the guts to get in front of the lens, my confidence is going up because whilst I know I have a weight loss journey to get behind (sorry coco pops!) I can see what others see, what you see, and I’m not as hideous as I’d always imagined. Who knew?

And on to another, I can’t remember the last time (recently, anyway) that my house was full-blown pigsty. Hurrah! I’m somehow managing to, more or less, keep on top of the necessities enough that I’m happy to invite people in rather than open the door a few inches and hiss at them.

Lastly, I’ve been hating on my blog recently. I’ve considering starting again, changing the name, giving it up completely, I’ve been round all of the houses and through all of the motions but I can say with completely certainty that it’s here to stay.

I work truly antisocial hours and I feel like I can never really stop or catch a break but don’t we all? Isn’t that motherhood? I am achieving so much, I am doing so much for my little family and I won’t have anyone tell me otherwise because I know that I’m trying my sodding best and, like my parents always told me and we will always tell Lily, that is what matters.

Despite inconsistency, content wobbles and periods of not much going on in blog-world (I needed to catch up on sleep, after a week or so of staying up mega late I usually end up crashing) my stats are still doing well and I’m getting lots of work and it’s all good. I just need to find my mojo and when I do it’s going to be totally groovy baby so yes, I think I will stick with the job that gives me free reign over what I do, when I do it and, for the most part, focuses on the same thing that I live for, that I myself focus on every single moment of the day and that I will always focus on and that’s Lily and our family life.

Lily Bath Time

So, I feel like I’m definitely winning and whilst I have my ups and downs (moody, sad, crying downs) like we all do, I am a mum boss because I love my daughter, I’m doing what I can to make her life blooming amazing and I always will.

We all have different lives, jobs (whether you stay at home or ‘go out’ to work) and feelings. What I’m proud of is probably completely different to what you’re proud of (aside from your kiddos, we’re all proud of our amazing sproglets) but whatever you do, own it and stand proud.

Whatever we’re achieving separately and individually, we’re all winning at the one thing that really matters and that’s being a mum.

You’re a mum boss too, did you know?

Of course you did, because you’re doing what you can as well.

And no matter what anybody says or does, that’s all you can do and that’s more than enough.

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22 Comments

  1. August 23, 2016 / 8:22 AM

    You are a total mum boss!! Your blog is awesome and I can’t believe you ever doubt it (although I can because I know we can never see our own awesomeness). I’ve been through so many ups and downs with my blog and it’s only been going for 6 months haha but I know at the end of the day it’s something I need to do right now because even if I try and give up… I can’t! Lily is obviously happy and thriving, make sure you are too! Do what makes your heart happy xx
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    • August 25, 2016 / 11:02 PM

      Ah bless you, thank you so much for your lovely comment!
      Your blog has made SUCH an impression in the blogging world/community since February, I remember when you launched thinking ‘wow, this is something special’.
      I think if you’re going through ups and downs then you’re just finding your jive and your place, I’m doing the same but still not found it haha!
      X X

  2. August 23, 2016 / 9:45 AM

    Get it girl! x

    • August 25, 2016 / 10:37 PM

      Thank you lovely! I’m trying my hardest, thought a little pep talk to myself might help 🙂 X

  3. August 28, 2016 / 6:24 PM

    I love my self employed work. Just wish I could afford to give up my full time job and devote all my time to my freelancing role.

    • September 4, 2016 / 11:06 PM

      I hope you can sometime soon lovely, your blog is awesome and always has me wanting to go and cook something yummy! 🙂
      If I hadn’t of had Lily, I wouldn’t be at home and it wouldn’t be an option for me either, it’s just worked out well and I never thought I’d be in a position to be able to do this.
      x x

  4. August 28, 2016 / 8:45 PM

    I formula fed my little boy from day 1 and have no regrets – we have an amazing bond and he’s a real Mummy’s boy – don’t beat yourself up about it xx

    • September 4, 2016 / 11:05 PM

      Aw that’s lovely, I wish there wasn’t so much pressure sometimes I think often that’s half of the problem! x x

  5. August 29, 2016 / 2:34 PM

    Lovely post … It would be a shame if you gave up your blog. Its really good! 🙂

    • September 4, 2016 / 11:00 PM

      Bless you, that’s very kind of you.
      I don’t think I’ll be giving it up anytime soon but I do have my blips from time to time! x

  6. August 29, 2016 / 6:31 PM

    You are 100% a mum boss! I totally feel you on the consistancy but meh a couple dry spells won’t hurt anyone.
    You keep up the amazing work Hun, great post.
    Charlotte x

    • September 4, 2016 / 11:04 PM

      Thank you m’dear!
      I hope not, I’m just finding my groove again that’s all and let’s face it, family life is always more important so a couple of dry spells is to be expected 🙂
      x x

  7. Hannah
    August 30, 2016 / 3:14 PM

    Your such a mum boss! Do whatever makes you happy xx

    • September 4, 2016 / 10:58 PM

      Ah thank you, that’s so sweet. I just want to do the best thing for my little girl and sometimes it can seem like everything I do makes me feel guilty in some way (and it’s totally irrational most of the time?) but I’m starting to try and be positive and give myself a break! x

  8. August 30, 2016 / 9:07 PM

    I sometimes want to change my blog too or completely giving up but I end up carrying on and so glad I do because I just enjoy it 🙂
    brilliant blog!

    • September 4, 2016 / 10:57 PM

      Thank you, that’s so lovely of you to say!
      Yes I enjoy it too but sometimes I feel lost I must admit, I seem to ebb in and out of having a blogging mojo haha x

  9. September 1, 2016 / 2:16 PM

    I think every mum or dad should read this post because everyone needs that little reminder that we are doing what we can and that is the best we can and know how to for our children!
    We put so much pressure on ourselves as parents sometimes without really praising ourselves for the amazing job we are doing and have already done (they’re all still alive right?!).

    Thanks for sharing 🙂

    Emmie xo
    http://www.unsignedmeblog.co.uk

    • September 4, 2016 / 11:10 PM

      Ah thank you for your brilliant comment and I completely agree, I usually feel so racked with guilt for the smallest, most insignificant of things let alone the big stuff and the pressure can be immense. All I want to do is the best for my family and my daughter and sometimes I think we just have to look in the mirror and praise ourselves instead of letting those thoughts creep in that you’re doing something wrong or not doing enough.
      x x

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