*Featured Post – #TheList Linky – February 26th 2016*
Have you seen this super-inspirational, mood-boosting post from Kate at Pouting in Heels?
As usual, Kate has dished out a whole heap of positivity in one her recent articles and urged us all to make our own ‘non-negotiables’ list (i.e. write down all of those things that you will not compromise on, whatever they may be, and stick to them!)
I’d highly recommend popping over to her blog as I promise you’ll come away wanting to grab a pen and make your own list (I’ll also be surprised if you haven’t bookmarked and subscribed…)
Anyway, that’s exactly what I did and here’s my list of things that I will make time for and will pull in to my life with two hands or push out with a kick and curt wave…
Have more ‘make-up’ and ‘good hair’ days than ‘no make-up’ and ‘drab hair’ days
I am so sick of catching sight of myself in mirrors and thinking ‘eeek, what a mess!’
I want to spend some time in the mornings making an effort with my hair, skin and make-up so I feel better and ready for the day ahead.
I’ve got a cupboard full of gorgeous goodies and I just don’t use them like I should.
I’ve really fallen out of the habit of looking after myself recently. Everything else just takes over. There’s always something more important that needs doing!
I know that I feel much more productive, composed and happy when I’ve taken the time to care for myself and like most of us, I enjoy using cosmetics and fancy creams etc. and the confidence boost that comes with it so why not eh?
Take at least one night a week ‘off’
A night away from blogging and away from the housework. A night to just relax, perhaps have a pamper sesh or do something for myself.
As I look after Lily during the day, I do most of my blogging and freelance work in the evenings and I’m sure my poor boyfriend is starting to think that I’m surgically attached to my laptop!
Whether it’s sitting down with a warm cup of tea (or a glass of wine) and watching some TV together without the constant interruptions of my iPhone or, if we’re lucky enough to have a babysitter for the night, popping out to the cinema or for a meal we definitely need to make sure that we have some time ‘off’.
Don’t put myself down to stop others doing it for me
Does that make sense?
I had a really rubbish time at school and I think it’s something I’ve picked up from the situation I found myself in. It’s like some sort of weird defense mechanism!
It’s almost as if it cushioned the blow if I’d set myself up for the fall anyway.
So, instead of highlighting my flaws to you and hoping you don’t add insult to injury I will just be myself and enjoy your company.
We’ve all got bits we don’t like about ourselves or things that aren’t ideal – no one of us is completely perfect in every way.
I won’t worry about what you’re thinking about me anymore or which of my many shortcomings you might shed some light on. If you feel the need to do that to somebody else, even if you try to make it seem unintentional, then I pity you and you’re not somebody I want to be around – kapeesh?
Don’t swear unless I absolutely need to
I’ve always had a hint of a potty mouth but nothing too much, just the odd word here and there when the situation deserved it.
I think when you’re growing up and you’re suddenly ‘allowed’ to curse then you can go a bit wild with it, throwing it in here, there and everywhere?
I wasn’t doing too badly until my last job where I sat in a small office opposite my boss. She swore constantly and I didn’t blame her, conveyancing is a swear-worthy profession and before I knew it I was as bad as she was!
Now we’ve had Lily I’m all about the ‘fudges’, ‘goodnesses’ and ‘drats’ so I may as well try and curb it all together (note to self: might need to make a swear box…)
Take Lily on a proper day out once a week
As Lily is starting to leave the baby world behind her *sobs* and we move towards toddlerhood, I want to start taking her on a ‘big day out’ once a week whether it be to the aquarium, beach or anywhere else a bit special.
I’ve also pinched a couple of things from Kate’s list because they’re points I’ve been thinking about myself recently so here we go…
Keep my nails pretty and painted
Even if it’s just a lick of clear varnish!
I feel so much more girly and confident when my nails are looked after. I’ve been trying to set aside 10 minutes to do my nails since Lily was born and here I am, with a little lady who’s just celebrated her first birthday and they’re in a shoddy state having not even been filed let alone anything else 🙁
My lovely mum bought me some cute pastel shades a few weeks ago and I can’t wait to try them. I really must find the time this weekend so I can keep it up going forwards.
Buy fresh flowers every week
Last month I bought a small bunch of flowers for the first time in absolutely ages to brighten up my Valentine’s Day decorated glassware project and I happily scattered the jars around the house without a second thought.
I soon discovered the effect that beautiful, fresh flowers can have on a home and a person’s mood is astounding. Even the untidiest, nightmare-ish rooms can feel a million times better with some gorgeous flowers adorning a coffee table or perhaps a mantlepiece or windowsill.
I am a little bit of a hippy in that I love anything to do with nature and I sometimes dream of living in a cottage on the edge of a forest with a water wheel and an apple tree so it’s no surprise that I feel uplifted when surrounded by pretty flowers.
We usually only buy flowers at special occasions but I’ve decided to make it a weekly thing. They don’t have to be expensive at all and even some daffodils from the garden would do!
Now I have an excuse to go around the charity shops again looking for pots, jugs and vases to put them in 😉
Read for at least 15 minutes every day
I used to be SUCH a bookworm when I was younger. I could pick up a book before bedtime, be glued to it all through the night and wake up in the morning having read every word.
It’s such a great feeling to be completely emersed in somebody else’s story, to let your mind imagine the settings and the characters and to find a book that you just don’t want to put down.
I miss that feeling and whether I’m snuggled up trying to wind down before bed or I manage to catch some time during the day cosied up with a brew in one of the big chairs in the living room, I will start reading again.
So, if you have any book recommendations please do let me know! 😉
Reading this, it might seem that I’m being a little bit selfish suddenly deciding to do all of these things but I’ve taken a well-needed step back and realised that I’ve got to find a balance, I have to do some things that are just for me even if it is just reading a book or spending some time looking after myself properly.
Have you made your list yet?
What are your ‘musts’ and ‘must nots’?
I’ve spoken to Kate and decided to start a tagging post with this so if you do get involved please make sure that you link back to Kate’s original post (most importantly) and also the person who tagged you.